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Actually, I can kind of understand this a little. JUST A LITTLE THOUGH AND HERE’S WHY.
I’m considered thin by fat folks.
I’m considered “thick/chubby/*various words for not-skinny*” by thin folks.
I’m considered downright obese by REALLY thin folks (my aunt, to be specific).
The thing, is, I’m not thin. I’m not fat. I’m stuck in the middle of thin and fat. I identify with certain fat folk issues because I’m not twig thin, but I also identify with certain thin folk issues because I’m not any larger than I am.
I still get the “Lose weight fatty!” comments from people on occasion, I also get the “BUT YOU’RE NOT EVEN CLOSE TO FAT!” comments from other people.
So, for those of us that are in that mid section of the weight spectrum, it can be a liiiitttllee confusing.
However: Their attitude with the whole “Please tell me the sience of what body is a thin body” part strikes a nerve. Like, it just comes off as sarcastic, and I get the feeling that they’re like “I’M SO NOT SKINNY SO I’M NOT THE PROBLEM HERE.”/ignoring privilege. So, yeah.
I’ll stop now.
I understand what you’re saying. I think it’d be really cool if there were more people to talk about average-bodied/inbetweenie politics.
I want to make it clear that in our society, no one is safe from body-shaming or policing. That doesn’t mean, however, that thinness isn’t privileged.
For instance, with clothing options:
- thin people can find clothes anywhere
- inbetweenies have more trouble, and clothes may fit awkwardly, but they still fit.
- there are fat people who literally cannot find clothes in any public venue and must resort to shopping online, and even then, the clothes are poorly made, matronly, and overpriced.
But yeah! Things to think about.
Yup, I’m one of those people who has to buy clothes online. I used to buy men’s shirts because they generally come in larger sizes, but the curvier I became, the worse they fit. Now there’s pretty much only two places I can buy decent clothes - one place has the undergarments, the other has the jeans and t-shirts. And while we’re talking about this, do you know how fucking hard it is to find a plain fucking t-shirt when you’re a plus-sized woman? Seriously. All I want is a comfortable, stretchy, crew-neck t-shirt, and there is ONE store on the planet that sells them for a decent price, and even then they’re so shoddily made that the crew necks stretch out to scoop necks in a matter of months. Not to mention the fact that if I try a new shirt and it doesn’t fit right or I just plain don’t like it, I have to fucking pay shipping to return it and wait three weeks if I do an exchange.
All I want is to wear decent clothes, for fuck’s sake.